People who are fun, good at things, and appear in public to be compassionate and generous often make desirable friends and life partners. They can be very enjoyable to hang out with, even if they seem a bit self-preoccupied, as if they are always taking mental selfies. Are they also good partners when it comes to talking through differences of opinion in work and/or home situations? Or is there something narcissistic about how they communicate in a relationship that’s provocative?
Especially when you hit bumps on the road of your life, ever tried to be friends or a love partner with someone who only listens to him or herself? Who changes the topic, gets defensive or gets mad at you when you try to talk about difficulties you’ve been experiencing? The desire to sustain a friendship, never mind a love relationship, with these folks can quickly fade.