Isolation in the Age of Too Many Cyber "Friends"

Twitter, Facebook, or any of the myriad of social contact sites that crowd the worldwide web in the contemporary world have one thing in common: they are bringing strangers into social contact. Yet with the idea that one can become connected to thousands of other people, the participating individuals are alone and isolated in their homes (Elite Introductions ). Though the participants appear to be enjoying the contact, the fact remains that the sheer numbers involved lead not to true, intimate friendships, but give a superficial presence that defies the establishment of what humans need most in their lives... confidants.

By confidant, we mean a person with whom an individual may share their innermost hopes, dreams, and aspirations. Modern psychology and medical professionals specializing in the fields of healing and mental health have followed these "social group" trends and have revealed that, in the last two decades, in spite of the existence of internet social sites, patients who were trying to heal from disease or overcome traumatic life events claim that people who they actually consider intimate confidants has dwindled from four to two per person. Since the need for intimacy in the form of confidants is in the third level of Abraham Maslow's Hierarchy of psychological needs for every individual, there are more and more people returning to the concept of meeting new friends and potential life partners on a more personal, real world rather than virtual level.

The most important point is to realize that we are hardwired for contact with each other. Physical presence is the key to this. The advent of support groups and the studies of the effectiveness of support groups in hospital convalescence from disease strongly supports this fact. The survival rate among the chronically ill is significant as compared to individuals who do not have physical contact with support groups.

Organizations like the YMCA have started exercise and fitness clubs within their memberships for physical presence and support with the goal of exercise and self-care for health and well-being. While members communicate through the internet, the personal touch of a coach is all-important.

The reemergence of matchmaking into mainstream dating systems proves that this is a viable way to meet a mate and eliminate potential disasters that may be a part of internet dating. Clients from matchmaking companies claim that it is an ideal way to have contact and physical presence in the real, rather than cyber, world by a matchmaker who lends the personal touch to dating. She also coaches clients to a successful match by filtering out people who are not suitable for their needs.

So as interesting and varied as social networking may be, there is still no denying the very human need for psychological support of confidants through the physical presence of other people. In short, there is no substitute for the presence of a friend with whom one may share his or her inner most thoughts on this journey called life.

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